I have been fortunate not to have someone close to me pass away by choice. I can’t imagine the pain and sorrow that those close to the deceased must feel and the question that race in their minds; was it my fault – was there anything that I could have done to prevent this from happening – was it my fault.
What about those that have taken their own lives that have children. I would think the experience would be with them for the rest of their lives.
For me, it boggles the mind…I am at a complete loss as to why someone would do such a thing. For me, life is a precious thing to waste…any life for that matter. I have a difficult time killing insects and will capture and release whenever I can. I caught 2 mice recently and was saddened somewhat. on the other hand the mice situation in our home was getting a bit out of hand and my actions were necessary to control the situation…similar to roaches (which we don’t have thank goodness).
I would think that a person that has made the choice to take his/her own life must have been in a place in his/her life where s/he had so little control that the only way to regain control would be to remove him/herself from the equation.
Recently we lost a guy that I thought was a pretty cool guy and I found his shows interesting and informative. His name was Anthony Bourdain and was the central figure in, Parts Unknown. What I found so interesting about this show was less about the food that he ate or the beer and wine he drank and more about the culture of the places he visited.
As the shows progressed, he seemed more like a tool…a person that was acting not on his own behalf but as if being guided by an invisible force. He seemed more isolated, lonely and I began to feel sad for him.
I wonder if he too felt like he lost control of his life and in a desperate attempt at regaining control, he ended it.
I believe that suicide is a choice in that life is in the hands of the living. If we want to reduce the rate of suicides, we must help people to understand that they can regain control of their lives if they want to change it.
That’s right…some people don’t want to change or are not ready to regain control of their lives and in that respect, we can’t exacerbate the situation by imposing more control over their lives.
Lasting change comes when a person has chosen to change.
“The woods are lovely dark and deep, but I have promises to keep, and miles to go before I sleep, and miles to go before I sleep – Frost.